It might be the holidays. It is thanksgiving break, both of us are coming out of a rather stressful week of school and we kind of just want to be left alone. I just want to watch my Millionaire Matchmaker, Project Runway, and What Not to Wear in peace, but he's insistent on watching every stinkin' ESPN channel there is on t.v. Obviously we're not used to veging out with each other, but still... GIVE ME MY T.V. TIME! Ha.
It might also be a paradigm shift. I think about a month ago I was just so glad to be around him and sit by him and I couldn't believe that I was married to him. And not that I still don't think those things, but I had this brain blast of, wait, he's already the 2nd longest roommate that I've ever had...(Natalie, you still win). I'm not going to lose him anytime soon, or ever, so what is the big problem? I dunno...it's just a thought.
Today I woke up early, because I'm not used to sleeping in anymore and I read for an hour then made breakfast. Erick was still asleep. I made sausage, eggs, and chocolate chip pancakes and couldn't wait until he woke up. He woke up and we had breakfast together, cute huh? I think this little scene got me thinking about all of this...I spent some Sam time first and then realized, "Hey, why not share my happy mood with Erick?" (which is when I made breakfast) Then, after about an hour of ESPN, that happy "newly wed" mood went away. So, I'm starting to realize that separate Sam and Erick time is vital to keep that "newly wed" mood. As of right now, Erick is gone doing Erick things, I'm making a jello salad for Thanksgiving tomorrow, and doing my homework on my own time: DEFINITE Sam time.
3 comments:
Actually, that's pretty cool. I think you're right. Also going through those stages. The alone time is important. I think I kind of knew that before, but when you put it out like that, it kind of brought it to light. The times I love being with my wife the most are after I have noticed once again that I am distinct. I have hobbies that are different from hers. Interesting.
Hang in there Sam - the best key is to communicate and listen!! We've been there too and still come upon it every once in a while! I love exercising, he hates it, I love being in the city, he hates it... etc... hahaha
Haha... coming from a "newer" newly wed, it's hard to believe that there will ever come a time that I will want time alone! I hate school so much of the time because it means I only get to see my husband at night and even then it's homework, homework, homework. But we always find sometime to do something that we both love together.
It's good to know I've got a friend to share some wisdom with me when that "newly-wed" stage becomes a little more distant! Love ya, Sam!
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